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5 Things I Have Accepted at 30

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Welcome to my (unofficial) TED Talk that focuses on me. First of all, I wish myself a very Happy Birthday. As I look through my phone waiting to see the blast of messages, I realized how I wasn’t even anxious to see who did or did not remember. As a matter of fact, I hoped I didn’t get a happy birthday from some people, because something didn’t seem sincere about it.

The day before my birthday, I channeled my thoughts into reliving what I had experienced as a conscious human being and how I was able to respond to situations that were beyond my control. I came to the conclusion that everything I thought I knew was a lie. Let me explain. Here are five things I have come to accept after hitting the 30.

I am 30 freaking years old!

July 3rd, 1988 God decided that I be born into this world.  Time has brought profits and losses. Aging is a reality we don’t want to accept. I have seen enough movies on the search for everlasting life and immortality. Why? People are afraid of what they don’t know.  It’s okay to panic. So much is going on in the world that you will come to terms with focusing what you can do without having a meltdown on the way. Embrace the fact that having the chance to age is a blessing on its own. Pro tip: Moisturize, Drink water and mind your business.

Achieving Greatness Should be your Lifes’ mission

If I had realized sooner on some occasions how much I worried about the things I couldn’t do rather than the things I should have mastered on, I would probably be a billionaire by now. ( Although I know that is in my destiny Insha Allah, you can argue with your village people). There is every opportunity to be great. Be great at reading. Be great at saying hello. Be great at watering a plant or sowing seed. Be great at smiling. Be great at being great. Be so great that even greatness will tap you on the shoulder and salute you. However, this is in no way an excuse to compare it to being an overachiever that develops into pride and arrogance. It is everyone’s fundamental obligation to be the best version of themselves so that it can reflect on others and allow you to transcend into inner peace. Failing to be great is tantamount to denying your purpose. Continue reading 5 Things I Have Accepted at 30

5 Things To Know Before Applying To College

5 Things to know

 

*taps mic*

” Mic check, mic check. This is a special announcement to all the people who made the conscious decision to take the college route.”

 

If anyone had told me 10 years ago, I’d be writing a piece about getting into college I would have thrown a bottle…. of invaluable knowledge from this fountain of wisdom! Now for the most part, when I look back, I see how a lot of sidetracks could have been avoided however that’s a story for another day.

College is hard. Hard is relative. You have so many elements and expectations hitting on you because completing college means you’ve made it ( according to the educated class of humans). College is more than academics, it’s a stepping stone to discovering, building and transferring your growth towards a wider audience. College is not a privilege, it’s an opportunity that beckons to many, but few can respond to.

Here are 5 things to know before applying to college, locally and internationally.

 

Grades Matter

Depending on the who, what, when, where, how and most importantly, the WHY you would make the decision to get into college is quickly reflected on how well of precedence you’re setting. I went to a secondary school in Nigeria, and I still believe the process is the same when I tell you this ( especially if you’re going abroad) YOUR👏🏾GRADES👏🏾MATTER. Schools always want to recruit the cream of the crop. The chances of better financial packages are higher. But as we evolve as a civilization, holistic growth and achievements also count that are not always reflected on paper.

College is NOT High School

It isn’t. Let me explain. High school is a controlled environment that is structured to get you into the habit of following through with routines. It coaches you in time management which is going to make or break your ability to actually survive college. Yes, not all school systems are equal regarding available resources to ensure this is successful. However, if you had the opportunity to pass through a system that does enable you to be your best, know that when you get to college, no one is going to monitor your actions but instead will be available in the event you need some form of support. Take full advantage of it.

Campus Visits

Ever seen those campus marketing photos that shows happy college students sitting on a field of green without a care in the world? Issa scam. The internet is designed to give any institution the platform to put their best foot forward. Never believe hearsay about a particular college. This is a considerable investment. Not every school is meant to be on your radar. It is essential to schedule an in-person visit to get a feel for the type of environment you’re going to sacrifice a couple of years to ( that includes empty bank accounts, insomnia and lots of caffeine). Understand that there is no pressure in making an immediate decision. Take your time and see what the best feeling is.

Keep Family in the Loop

It might seem like the perfect opportunity to gain ‘freedom’ from your overprotective parents or guardians ( in some cases, depending on your background that might be what you need but I will talk about that in another blog post). But your family is your ride or die. Everyone who genuinely cares needs to be kept in the loop of your progress so that they can know how to lend their support as you go through this journey. It is not just about you. Your success can impact some other individual who wants to follow the same path, and a healthy relationship can make or break the strength to weather the storms ahead.

Be Prepared or Be Repaired

College is not for everybody (argue with your ancestors). It is a conscious and ongoing effort of self-determination and self-motivation. College is the sandbox that swallows you whole and then decides spits you out without warning. Is it a scary place? Of course, it is, that’s what I have been yapping about on the last 4 points. But the beauty of it is not to prove who’s the smartest or who has the most participation with campus organizations. College is the frontier to make mistakes and to unlearn what you thought life was about. You will meet a diverse community ( this is hoping you go to a college that actually has some diversity, some of them be lying). You will be presented with opportunities to make adult decisions and live with the consequences. Be prepared to grow. Be ready to learn about the world. Or be repaired by failing to understand all the wisdom I have generously given.

 


Fatyma Amadou is a college student, blogger and owns this blog.

Disclaimer: Not part of any college recruiting committee. All commentary is based on personal experience and reflection

5 Mobile Apps You Need For College

Mobile apps for college

The bane of every and I mean EVERY self-respecting college student is remaining attentive. I cannot confidently say I am not a victim of this, given that we are continually being stimulated thus not giving our brains enough time to process and manage one event from another. Technology has given us two distinct options: Use me or Abuse me.

It took a lot of effort and patience to test and try out apps that would keep me aware of how I manage my time without having the FOMO. As we all get older, our priorities are bound to filter through. Here are 5 mobile apps that are staples for everyone trying to be efficient.

 

Forest

 

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Platform: iOS + Android

Price: USD 1.99

You have that test coming up or your eyes hurt, but you lack the willpower to put your device down? Build a forest. We all have that innate desire to be rewarded when setting out to do something, so why not invest in an app that not only encourages you to take a timeout but also participates in real life tree planting around the world?

 

GroupMe

 

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Platform: iOS + Android

Price: Free

Forget about trying to communicate with your team members on a group project with facebook messenger or Instagram. It’s not going to work, believe me. There are people outchea with trap phones ( in 2018, there are people outchea with trap phones. Argue with your ancestors).

GroupMe enables all parties to communicate without being distracted and even has an in-built Dropbox feature to help with quick file sharing. One thing I like about this is that you can register with either an email address or phone number (for SMS features).

 

Google Calendar

 

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Platform: iOS + Android

Price: Free

I don’t care how organized  (or not) you were back in high school but believe me when I tell you, COLLEGE IS NOT HIGH SCHOOL. Everything works like clockwork and skipping on something like a class or forgetting to attend a meeting or replying an important email is the beginning of failure.  It’s essential to schedule your entire semester and making sure it is accessible when you need it. One brilliant feature of Google is that most if not all of their products can be synced on multiple platforms. This is a staple. Set up reminders for deadlines especially if you have a full academic year.

 

LinkedIn

 

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Source: http://www.lynda.com

Platform: iOS + Android

Price: Free

At the end of every Spring semester is an opportunity for an internship. At the end of every college graduation is a prospective job. Most people are absolutely clueless about what they want to do when they’ve really come to terms to adulting. LinkedIn gives you an opportunity to scan through millions of companies and institutions which they are looking for to recruit. Start as early as possible by signing up that way you can at least have a plan on where you want your future to lead you.

 

E-Mail Clients

 

 

 

Platform: iOS + Android

Price: Free

 

Under no circumstance should you NOT ignore emails while school is in session. Depending on what email address you have on record, you’ll almost if not always get emails to your .edu address. Be sure to have it linked to any of your email clients such as Mail on iOS, Outlook provided by Microsoft and Gmail. It also saves you the stress of wondering what your username is ( especially if it’s something from your embarrassing pre-adolescent years) and whether or not it can be used professionally.


Fatyma Amadou is a college student, blogger and owns this blog.

Disclaimer: This post was not sponsored by the above companies mentioned. This worked for me so basically it’s me ( as usual) helping you 🙂

 

 

 

 

5 Music Festivals You Need to Attend

Music Festivals to Attend

 

What season is it?

Summer!!!

What do we want?

Music Festivals!!!

 

Yes my children, gather around and feast your curiosity to the wonders of how you’re about to get broke after working and saving coint 9 months out of the grueling past year. The one definitive that accurately describes what summer is all about, from fast fashion brands like Boohoo, H&M, Urban Outfitters, Fashion Nova that push out ads, to new DIY inspirations from Instagram, Tumblr, and Pinterest. It’s Music Festival season.

Here are 5 Music Festivals I have curated and recommend you check out when you can afford to… I know I’d like to strike this off my bucket list.

Tomorrowland

 

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Source: www.tomorrowland2017.org

Location: Boom, Belgium

Genre: EDM

When: 20-21-22 July & 27-28-29 July 2018

I find that this has to be the most creative when it comes to organizing and coming up with themes ( this year is The Story of Planaxis). Ever since its inception in 2005, it has successfully gathered young frolicking pixie humans from all over the world to partake in the glory that is Tomorrowland. Now, given that I recently discovered my affinity to EDM, and being able to see the likes of Swedish House Mafia, Steve Aoki, David Guetta, and other European DJs, this is one festival that would be worth the coins when traveling in a group of no more than four.

There are different packages available to meet your budget. Be sure to check out their website and sign up for newsletters and ticket sales. Also, check out the different playlists available on Spotify.

 

Afropunk Festival

 

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Source: thesightsandsounds.com

Location:  Commodore Barry Park, Brooklyn NY

Genre: Punk & Alternative Music.

When: 25-26 August 2018

*sips tea*

Let me start by saying that if you can have soul interpreted through the sacred art of the Ori by artiste extraordinaire Laolu, then you are definitely in the right place. Contrary to some unknown stereotypical assumption that people of African descent cannot appreciate what was visible to only the white populace, punk has been fully embraced with various degrees and layers. So much Black People Magic can be a bit overwhelming, just like a pot of soup ready to change your life. Lineups like Janelle Monaé, Erykah ‘ Bag Lady’ Badu, Miguel, and Tyler the Creator will definitely put you in the mood. Get to your nearest Hobby Lobby or favorite Amazon vendor and get those flower posies ready because of issa vibe y’all.

Be immersed with not only the soulful sounds of music but experience the current and underground trends of art expression and fashion ( in case you’re wondering where some of these clothing lines be getting ideas from). If Japan can have its Harajuku days in Shibuya, we are allowed to have Afropunk.

 

Firefly Music Festival 

 

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Source: www.dolaphoto.com

Location:  The Woodlands, Dover DE

Genre: RnB,Rap,Hip-Hop,Rock,Folk, Indie…. Basically everyone

When: 14-17 June 2018

So you didn’t have Coachella money? And you probably couldn’t afford time off from work or school? Fret no longer. One of the well kept ( or maybe not, I didn’t know until I got to DE) secrets of the nice cushy green FIRST state of the USA is no sales tax. Repeat after me, No.Sales.Tax. So if you have shopping that needs to be done, why not indulge yourself ( I digress).

Firefly I would assume is one of those festivals you go to and expect to achieve the whole camping experience. Woodlands and all. I can’t begin to describe the humidity of the place, but at the same time, there’s just something magical about being in the open and getting some fresh air ( better than  *cough* the desert). The Lineup poster gives you an idea of why I said: “basically everyone.”

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Voodoo Music + Arts Experience

 

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Source: http://www.spin.com (Photo credit: Joshua Brasted)

Location:  City Park, New Orleans LA

Genre: Music Festival

When: 26-28 October 2018

Voodoo… From the word, Vodun oozes out spirituality from ancient West Africa that crossed the Atlantic to settle in most of South America and concentrated in Louisiana. Everyone is drawn to NOLA for one reason or the other, so why not name a festival that represents a collection of different energies?

Given that the Essence Music Festival is in July extend your adventure into the fall around Halloween weekend (not surprised by this coincidence). Explore NOLA for all its magic and history not just on Bourbon Street in the French Quarter but beyond. You might actually ” Have friends on the other side” (Blame Disney💀).

 

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Source: http://www.voodoofestival.com  (Lindsey Moringy, C3Presents Marketing)

 

Lollapalooza

 

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Source: urbanmatter.com 

Location:  Grant Park, Chicago IL

Genre: Alternative rock, punk rock,hip-hop; electronic… Everyone basically (again)

When: 2-5 August 2018

The windy city has given us bad winters, deep dish Chicago pizzas and now we can all agree we have been given Lollapalooza. Conceived in the early 90’s, grunge and punk culture have permeated the scene ever since. If you’re in the midwest and not up to going very far to explore the delights of a music festival, rest assured that your favorite artists are bound to perform on one of the many days it runs for.


Fatyma Amadou is a college student, blogger and owns this blog.

Disclaimer: This post is not sponsored by any of the organizers of the above-mentioned festivals ( but here’s to hoping that they will in future, I mean, come on 😩)

5 Things We Need To Leave In 2017

Somewhere in the world, it is 2018…..

 

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Not here, bitch!!! It’s still 2017 and 3 hours to go. So as much as I have been promising to get into blogging more frequently vis-à-vis, I am here to formally round up some trends that I have personally experienced or for lack of a better word, been forced to suffer through the annals of these internets.

Now all these opinions are my own and for all intended purposes, to help you help me in reflecting and also entertainment.

1. Bad foundation shade

Inglorious 2017, we have been blessed by indie brands and beauty bloggers and YouTubers who called bullshit on brands which failed to get the memo. Y’all ever had that one kid in class, that one co-worker, that one family member, that one individual that you have to consistently and politely remind them that there’s a way of doing stuff because well, we are all grown in these streets but they keep ignoring you because they see no repercussions?

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That’s precisely what happened. Thankfully we had the likes of Fenty Beauty that came in and snatched all our coins. Sure you have MAC cosmetics but the narrowing down and thought process that went into compiling the awesome foundation shades, we have been able to overcome this problem of the RIGHT FOUNDATION.

However…. some of you still need work. Please, please and please. No one is asking you to break the bank, but if you do spend your coins in that department, get it together. You don’t have to have all the makeup brands at your disposal. Get the one with the right formula, the right shade that works for the right you, abi you get shop?

2. Time wasters aka your friendly neighborhood fuckboy incorporated

Have you been unfairly treated, promised heaven and earth, told that your everything I ever wanted and still got played? Look no further, as the Lord would have it, deleting, blocking, banishing with enchantment spells has been repackaged into a new and improved package called 📣 📣”I said what I said “📣 📣

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